Dear Dr. Archer,
Figuring out this life without guidance is a bit complicated. Losing one loved one took me years to get back to my old self again. I managed to heal myself, probably not in the healthiest of ways, but it worked. I came back stronger and felt a little ounce of happiness, until my world was once again shattered, when I lost another loved one.
I felt like I was drowning. Again, I somewhat healed myself. It's been two years, and things are okay now. However, there are still days when I feel low. I'm afraid of any more losses in the near future.
What do I do? I'm not depressed; I'm doing quite well for all I've been through. It's just hard for me to fully enjoy a moment without being afraid of having it taken away from me. Trust seems to be an issue.
Another thing -- I'm trying not to be a failure in life, but the route I'm taking to achieve my goals is anything but easy. Am I looking for an easy way out? Of course not, but at the same time, am I supposed to be having so much trouble?
As for right now, I try to take things one at a time. I won't be able to reach my goals at the same time as everyone else, but that's okay. I'm willing to keep on trying, because in the end, I'll eventually make it. Thanks for listening.
Congratulations, as long as you are trying you are winning. With your attitude, you will indeed make it. Sometimes attitude is the only difference between success and failure and I can see you get that.
Despite the most terrible of losses, life goes on, and we do the best we can. There are bad days, and good days and in-between days and all we can do is stay the course and keep moving forward. You have the right attitude. Set your sights, define your goals, and work towards them. It's not only the destination, but how we travel that determines a successful life.
I want you to know something, @UnwarnedLife. You're not the only person who feels like life is complicated. Sometimes we get the impression that so-and-so has it so easy, but I'm here to tell you that so-and-so also has problems. They might be different, maybe not as bad as yours, maybe worse, but they are problems, nevertheless.
I received a letter from Laura, who is matter-of-fact, vivacious and well grounded with who she is. You might enjoy her letter, "Laura Tells It Like It Is"
as it can be a lesson for so many. She's got the right attitude to succeed, despite many obstacles and so do you.
Keep trying, be a good friend to others, embrace your family, enjoy your work and never lose sight of the big picture. Thanks for writing, I’ll be sure to follow you on twitter and I invite our readers to do the same. All the best,