Dear Dr. Archer,
I don't like people much at all. I have a couple of friends that I see two or three times a year, and that's plenty. I love being alone! I take trips, work out, read and garden -- all alone.
My parents worry that I'm depressed, and so does my boss and two friends. But the thing is, I'm happy! I sometimes wonder if they're right; should I make myself become more social to make them happy?
Lucy
Dear Lucy,
Congratulations! You have found your niche and its all good. If you’re happy then DO NOT change how you live your life just because that's what others want. That would be a recipe for disaster.
You sound just fine to me, Lucy. As long as you're content with your life then continue to live it the way you want.
Your parents, friends and boss are I'm sure concerned about your well being. Just keep telling them you're living your life the way you wish and that you couldn't be happier.
Stay in contact with your parents and let them know you're fine and content. If you want to put their mind at ease, then increase time spent with them, BUT only if this is something you want to do.
Bottom line, Lucy: do not make yourself miserable in order to make others happy. If you are enjoying your life the way it is, then consider yourself very, very lucky. Living a happy, content life -- isn't that really what it’s all about? Take care.
Dr. Archer
