Dear Dr. Archer,
There was this guy with whom I had a three year relationship. Out of these three years, he cheated on me for two and a half years, but stopped recently. We fought because of his emotional disorder, and we broke up many times.
Let me say this was strictly an online relationship. We dreamt of meeting each other, but those dreams shattered the moment we broke up.
I want to understand boys, Dr. Archer. Just a minute ago I told him I missed him, and he stopped replying We were talking before I told him this. Why did that happen? Is he ignoring me? Does he still love me? He has broken up and come back to me many times before.
I have tried to forget him, but I still love him. Can you tell me why he stopped replying? Is it simply because I said I missed him? Also, he's a game addict.
If this guy wants to break up again, please, take him up on the offer! It's been three years, and you have yet to meet? And you hurt and claim to love him? Really? If this is so difficult online, what do you think it'd be like in person?
Being in love is much more than typing on a keyboard, Susannah. Look at how you describe this "relationship" and tell me with a straight face you're not better off without him.
It's been three years and you've never met, you argue, break up, make up, break up, all the while he's cheating on you, and he's a gamer -- why on earth would you say you love him?
Sometimes online relationships work, but they are rare. This is one, however, that you should end for good. He is not treating you like a boyfriend should, not by any stretch of the imagination.
Snap out of it, Susannah. You are a plaything for this guy; he probably has a girlfriend and this is amusement during his spare time.
For your own good, please wake up and realize what's going on here. Find a guy with whom you can have a healthy relationship. You're afraid of losing this guy simply because you're longing for a relationship.
I suggest you start working on you, having fun with some girlfriends, family and friends. You deserve much better than this.