Dear Dr. Archer,
I'm a young woman in my mid 20's with a strange phobia for certain places. There are certain places that just depress me. These places don't necessarily have to be eye sores or in bad shape. I just have a general dislike towards them; they can be either residential or public places.
For example, when I lived with my parents I was depressed most of the time because, for some unexplained reason, I just didn't like our house. My crazy reason was that it was situated near the mountains and very quiet. For some reason, that depressed me. It was a beautiful house, well decorated, but I hated living there.
Now I'm living on my own. I loved the first place I lived for the past six months, but I moved to a new place yesterday. I thought I liked, but now am starting to feel depressed and I'm already dying to move out.
It feels like a prison cell, and I miss my old place. Last night I had to sleep at my boyfriend's because I didn't want to sleep at my new place because of the depressing atmosphere.
I haven't told my boyfriend I'm already hating the new place for fear of him thinking I'm crazy. I only moved in a day ago and he went through all the trouble of helping me move my things.
Don't get me wrong -- there are places that don't depress me, like my last place. I only moved because of a minor electricity issue, but I'm hating this new place, though when I first saw it I was happy about it. Now I'd do anything to get out of this prison.
Is this normal? Am I normal for feeling this way? Is there something wrong with me? If someone asked me why I didn't like my new place, I don't have an answer for them. It just depresses me!
I'm at work right now and am not looking forward to going home. I'm starting to think I'm crazy because it doesn't make sense and people would say I should be thankful that I have a decent place to stay.
Can a residential place affect someone's mood this much? The thought of being stuck in this place for the next few months is depressing me already. Also, finding a new place in this area is not easy. Help!
You are clearly a highly intuitive person, and are very sensitive to your surroundings. Energy is all around us, and when you learn to balance the forces around you within your given space, you can become the master of your life.
Using the ancient art and the science of Feng Shui can help make your home and work environment your place of well being, contentment and peace.
Feng Shui is the art of balancing energies within any given space. What we want you to have is balanced energy and a comforting flow within your new apartment.
When furniture, light, air and accessories are placed strategically, you will be able to feel a sense of well being every time you walk through your door. That is your objective here.
Check out Your House & Home Feng Shui: How To Get Started which gives you the seven initial steps in creating peace and balance within your living environment. Never overlook the benefits of good quality air and light. These two elements are essential for good energy.
Open windows, air-purifying plants or an air purifier can help. Get the benefits of as much natural light into your home as possible.
Check out Feng Shui Furniture Placement. This site will walk you step by step how to place your furniture and accessories to best guide and control the energy within your living space. For a highly intuitive person like yourself, how you arrange your furniture can create the coziness, calm and contentment that you're seeking.
As I said before, Sydney, you're highly intuitive, so be in tune with your inner voice. After you make some changes within your apartment to balance the energies within it's walls, you might actually decide you love the place. Feng shui can make all the difference in the world and you might end up living there for a long time.
However, if you do decide to move again, look ahead and spend some time in the next place before actually moving in. Visit the apartment several times and feel the energy within the walls.
Ask if you can spend the night there before moving in. Your gut will tell you if it is right for you. Follow your instincts, Sydney, because they are strong! Folks with strong intuition such as you need to listen to that inner self.
Remember, "What you are is what you have been. What you’ll be is what you do now.” ~Buddha. All the best,