Mental Health
Srinivasan Is Turned Down For An MBA Program Due To Low Scores
2/27/2012 10:00:41 AM
Dear Dr. Archer,
I have completed my undergraduate studies and applied to an MBA program, but I scored a 44.9 percent! Please, someone must help me! No one is ready to give me admission, and I feel like committing suicide because of my low percentage score on my tests. My life is doomed!

I would do anything, absolutely anything, to get admitted into the MBA program at a good institution, even if I had to die. I'll be a failure if I don't get accepted -- Oh, the shame!!! Please, please. Somebody help me, please, please, please.

Please save me. Suicide is all I think about. I think of ways to commit suicide, like consuming poison; I have it with me now. I also think about hanging myself. I wasn't able to focus on my studies, and now I don't know what to do.
Srinivasan

Dear Srinivasan,
Suicide is NOT the answer. Go talk with a university counselor NOW and tell him how you are feeling. You must see a professional immediately. You are depressed and it may have nothing to do with the exam. You could have a chemical imbalance depression and need treatment, let an expert decide this.

Also, Srinivasan, consider a different university which will accept lower scores or a different graduate program rather than an MBA. Stop thinking that there is only one answer. There are always many. 

There may be plenty of hype around elite colleges, so you think the others are inferior, but that's just not true. Many students find standardized tests extremely difficult, and perform poorly. Once accepted by a university, they perform well, graduate and secure good jobs.

There are even colleges that accept students without any exams, as they realize these tests are not necessarily a true measure of a student's accomplishments. 

Please, put the drama behind you and think in a constructive, beneficial manner. Be composed and speak with a counselor. There are many options here, you just have tunnel vision right now and can’t see them. Good luck.
Dr. Archer
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4 Comments
2/27/2012 4:38:14 PM
A friend of mine auditioned to enter the college I was in, one of the best in London, and failed... He then went to Boston, and was examined on a slightly different subject. Not only he passed, he is nationwide famous now...!! Giuseppe Verdi, one of the most famous Italian opera composers of all times, had failed his audition in Milan Conservatoire, he did not get admitted, due to poor performance!!! This didn't stop him from composing the masterpiece 'Nabucco' which due to its triumphant success made him the mot prominent of the Italian composers. Jean Sibelius, the most famous Finnish composer says sad in his biography 'last night I dreamt of being a violin virtuoso'. Well, the violin concerto he composed, placed him amongst the top 5 violin concerto composers in the world. So... even the most famous personalities had failed once. But they still became the top of the world. Failing doesn't mean anything and it doesn't stop you to reach what you want. Because: If you want something so badly, as you do, consider it yours. There is no way, absolutely no way that it won't happen! In fact you are lucky to be so passionate. This is your guarantee that sooner or later, you will get there. I thought also many times, just like you, that my life is empty and worthless if I don’t get success as I imagined it. But I never stopped trying. Other people failed, and stopped, I failed many times too, like failed 10 times, won one, that’s how the game goes. Eventually, you lose, lose, lose, then win! Again lose, lose, lose, then win. Then you build your winnings. It is harder than you thought, and takes a long time, but it is also more precious, because you suffered for it, so it’s more valuable. Anyway easy winnings are boring. I consider myself lucky, to need to try. Having something easily, or at once, is no fun.
2/27/2012 5:42:22 PM
You said you were having trouble concentrating on your studies, so doesn't that tell you that maybe something is going on to make you that way? Maybe you have an imbalance affecting your ability to concentrate. Go to the school counselor and let them know what is going on and maybe they can even help you find someone to be assessed by and then work things out once you're back on your game. Here you are saying you are a failure, and I don't know anyone who has an MBA, I don't think, and not many with any 4-year degree, so you will be fine no matter what happens, but you need to see a psychologist and check yourself out so you're happy, like Dr. Archer says.
2/27/2012 6:39:58 PM
Srinivasan, hi there..
I understand your dissapointment, but I do wonder what failure means to you? I doubt someone who has had the courage to go for what they want is a failure, and each step in your life is a learning curb towards strength and wisdom. Yes you feel you have lost out, but I am sure new opportunity can formulate itself if you take a look at your core values, and what is really important to you in life, not just at this moment but in general terms.
If you are feeling suicidal, please don't assume that is the answer. The very action of you asking for information and help is a sign that you haven't given up, nor are you ready. In truth there is an answer, a remedy for you, so be patient with yourself.
There are some amazing books in the library, so go and seek as many answers about yourself as you can, and if you can afford a good therapist, then do invest in yourself, because investing in the self, is investing in your future, more than you think.
take care
DDA
3/9/2012 10:06:32 AM
Good input, Marcia. Those who persevere come out on top almost every time.
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