5/31/2013 6:00:00 AM
Linda is divorced and works part time. She hates her job and is trying to find something else, but so far no luck. She's creative, but thinks people view her as weird and ugly. She wants to put her creativity to work for her, but how? She doesn't like to deal with people because she thinks they don't like the way she looks. I give her my thoughts; what are yours?
10/3/2012 6:00:00 AM
Daisy is 22 and a third child. The first two were wanted, while she was a surprise. Her parents attempted to abort her, but she survived. She asks why God would allow this to happen, if children are gifts from God. I attempt to answer a very difficult question.
8/9/2012 6:00:00 AM
Joshua isn't as confident as he'd like to be. He can't speak in front of large groups without feeling nervous. He met a woman online, but she wants her space. He wonders if he should play sports again and wonders if he should transfer to another school. He just isn't sure of anything. Thoughts?
7/31/2012 6:00:00 AM
Marie just finished reading my book, 'Better Than Normal' and shares that after raising her children and turning 50, she still hasn't found the job that she enjoys and makes her feel complete. She asks for help. Thoughts?
6/20/2012 6:00:26 PM
Phil is a bartender with a big problem. He finds he can no longer look his customers in the eye! He has become self-conscious about this, and obsesses about it every day. Now he's diverting his eyes, feels shifty and wants to be able to look his customers in the eye again and just talk normally. He asks what's wrong, and how can he overcome this?
5/11/2012 10:00:19 PM
Nicole is a 20 year old college student who is shy. At home she imagines herself being outgoing and having a passion for life and ambitious. In reality, her shyness is holding her back. She's getting tired of pretending to be happy, and asks what she can do to overcome both, her shyness and her perfectionism. What would you advise her?
5/8/2012 10:00:50 PM
Daniel is a 32 year old man with major self esteem issues. He suffered from depression but overcame that. He admits he's a virgin, and fears he will never have a relationship because of his fantasies about wanting to be with a dominating woman who abuses and humiliates him. And he gets panic attacks just thinking of being naked in front of someone. What words of encouragement would you offer this man?
5/8/2012 6:00:22 AM
Harry, at the age of 70, read my book and finds he is a mix of the shy and magical thinking traits. He asks about compensating for shyness, so he doesn't feel like he's taken for granted. He wants to push back and asks my thoughts on compensation for shyness. What do you think?
4/25/2012 10:00:15 PM
Ali has read book after book about how to overcome shyness with the opposite sex. He reads, understands, and then will walk up to a girl and then ... bam! He freezes. He's had this problem most of his life, and wants to how to overcome it and how to finally get a date.
4/15/2012 6:00:23 AM
Sue Ann views her shyness with disgust, and therefore puts herself in uncomfortable situations to try to become more outgoing. But when there, she doesn't want people to think she's stuck up, but she has a difficult time talking to others she doesn't know. She keeps trying, but it's not working and she's feeling worse. Do you have advice for her?
4/4/2012 6:00:35 AM
Rob is overweight, 41 and afraid life is passing him by. He would like a relationship and possibly children, but the only time he feels good about himself is when he's at work. He knows he needs to lose about a hundred pounds, and thinks he's not good enough for anyone else. Is there something you'd like to tell him?
3/19/2012 6:00:02 AM
Katherine is working, and it is up to her to engage with the public. She's not very good at it, because she's on the shy side. She's wondering how she can get over this before it ruins her employment. What would you tell her to do?
3/16/2012 6:00:58 AM
Samuel was brought up in a Christian home, headed by a tyrant, his strict father. He was the youngest, and being anxious, he spent his time inside, eating and becoming fat. In high school he exercised, ate right and became fit and trim. Then his father was arrested for molesting a neighbor's eight year old daughter, and was sent to prison. He put the weight back on, started questioning his sexuality and wanted to talk to his mom, who was never available as she was dealing with the circumstances in her own way. Now he has lost the weight again, but feels unworthy - like what his dad did is all his fault. He wants to know if he needs therapy to feel better? What would you think?
3/14/2012 2:00:22 PM
Anil faces problems at work, like being forgetful, fearful of speaking to authority and inaccuracy in her work. She asks for my advice to overcome these obstacles. Could the job be the problem?
12/27/2011 10:00:38 PM
Kecia went to a predominately black high school and did not fit in at all. It was because of this experience that she hates being black. When she thinks of black people, she thinks ghetto, and she thinks she's better than that. She feels trapped and wants advice.
11/15/2011 2:00:24 PM
Naren is 29 and extremely shy. Even at home, he is in his room alone, rather than in the house with the rest of the family. He has never spoken to a woman because females scare him so much. He wants to know what he can do to start enjoying his life. Suggestions?
11/5/2011 10:00:02 PM
Karishma is terribly shy. She's earning her MBA and being an introvert is affecting her work and her home life. She's trying to change her negative attitude, but nothing has helped. She wants some psychological advice on how to overcome the obstacle of being shy that she feels is hampering her life. Do you see shyness as a strength or a weakness?
10/29/2011 2:00:27 PM
Abid is 25 and just completed college with honors. He went on an interview and became very nervous and anxious. The same thing happened when he had to give a presentation to his class. He wonders how can he overcome this performance anxiety. Is this the right question?
10/12/2011 2:03:16 PM
Aylin can't seem to make friends, not even online. Alone, with not even her relatives liking her, she is considered an oddball. She is withdrawn and shy and wants to get over these feelings, but how?