6/8/2013 6:00:00 AM
Lori was a school counselor for ten years, and hated every minute of it. Now she asks my advice for career opportunities for a hyper alert, dramatic person. I gave my answer. Does your career suit your strong traits?
5/31/2013 6:00:00 AM
Linda is divorced and works part time. She hates her job and is trying to find something else, but so far no luck. She's creative, but thinks people view her as weird and ugly. She wants to put her creativity to work for her, but how? She doesn't like to deal with people because she thinks they don't like the way she looks. I give her my thoughts; what are yours?
5/23/2013 6:00:00 AM
Lisa grew up in a dysfunctional home where mom and dad hated each other, and they only shared one meal each year, where mom would just about throw the turkey at dad. She has an adventurous spirt, hence her job as an international flight attendant. She wonders if she's an alcoholic, wonders why she's a multitasker, why she prefers younger men and why her life is so disorganized. She wonders if she needs to return to AA, return to basics or just slow her life down. Thoughts?
5/12/2013 6:00:00 AM
Naved used to fight boys bigger and stronger than him and never lost a fight. Then he fought a boy weaker than him, and lost. He lost all of his confidence, and years later he still cannot find his confidence. Although this helped curb his aggression, he'd like to be confident again, so asks what he can do. Thoughts?
4/24/2013 6:00:00 AM
Jane's past is riddled with pain, sorrow and backstabbing. Still, she considers herself positive, friendly and loyal -- on the surface.
4/5/2013 6:00:00 AM
Bob is a 79 year old man in good health. Suddenly, he is being asked to resign from many of his social groups that he has belonged to, some for years! Without giving particulars, he asks what could be wrong, what's he doing to alienate all these people. Many people have what I call a blind spot, where they don't see themselves for who they really are. How can he correct this?
3/25/2013 6:00:00 AM
Rony is at a university and got very close to another student. This student, however, partied all the time, and wanted to cheat off Rony and others.
3/17/2013 6:00:00 AM
Michelle is a 34 year old plus-sized woman who has a strong faith in God but is lonely. She never dated in high school or college, but didn't worry about it because she was too busy. Now she'd wants deperately to fall in love and have a family.
2/3/2013 6:00:00 AM
Angie is retired, and lived a life of neglect and abuse from her mother, but love from her father. They're both deceased now, but to this day she still nurses that anger toward mom. She's in ill health with no insurance, and her antidepressants aren't helping.
1/26/2013 6:00:00 AM
Al struggles with happiness. He's a successful orthodontist, has a lovely family, lives in a beautiful home, tries different hobbies whenever he pleases..... yet happiness eludes him.
1/19/2013 6:00:00 AM
John overcame incredible odds, and was on his own at 12. Ultimately, he owned his own company and had 40 employees. Then the economy crashed and at 61, he finds himself in a precarious situation. He lost his business and is fighting to keep his home.
12/11/2012 6:00:00 AM
Jan wrote to me a year ago regarding unresolved trust issues due to a childhood incident. During the past year, she has learned a priceless lesson on the value and importance of forgiveness -- not for the perpetrator, but for herself.
10/16/2012 2:00:00 PM
Sarah feels she needs a therapist, but can't afford one. She cannot say "no" because she feels overwhelming guilt, and doesn't want the other person to feel badly. She's full of apologies, yet still cannot say no without feeling the guilt.
10/15/2012 2:00:00 PM
Nicole has had her friend live with her for the past three years so she'd feel safe. She's now ready to live alone, but doesn't want to hurt her friend's feelings. She wonders where will he go, since he has nothing but his clothes and a television.
10/5/2012 2:00:00 PM
Scott is 25 and is consumed about sexual fantasies involving his mother. It has gotten to the point that he must fantasize about her in order to have sex with other women. He wonders if he's abnormal or mentally unstable and how he can control this.
10/4/2012 2:00:00 AM
Des is 26, 5' 9" and much taller than her mom and sisters. Her small breasts do not fit her frame, and she finds it a challenge to find bras that fit her correctly. It has caused a self-esteem problem, especially since a childhood illness caused her to be big boned and delay puberty until age 17. She asks what can she do to accept herself the way she is?
10/3/2012 6:00:00 AM
Daisy is 22 and a third child. The first two were wanted, while she was a surprise. Her parents attempted to abort her, but she survived. She asks why God would allow this to happen, if children are gifts from God. I attempt to answer a very difficult question.
10/2/2012 6:00:01 AM
Ajay is a 43 year old businessman who has a 36 year old housewife and two teenage children. He has a hard time dealing with others, though he tries to be a good person. He helps the poor, homeless animals and those weaker than he. And yet, despite all this, no one likes him. They're either jealous or want to compete with him, and he's not sure what's going on.
9/21/2012 6:00:00 AM
Patricia wants to be like the popular girls. She imitates the way they talk, dress, fix their hair, and yet feels people still don't like her. She is married, but is not sure if she's really happy. Life is passing her by, and asks how she can make friends and ultimately, be happy....and popular.
9/13/2012 2:00:00 PM
Safae is 19 and miserable. She's not as pretty as her sister or her cousin, and has never been on a trip. She spends her days in her room with her laptop, seeking others. She had an online relationship, but all the guy wanted to do was make love over the Internet. She asks for our advice.
9/8/2012 6:00:00 AM
Ann is in her fourth year of medical school. She is stressed out, angry, hates the friends she has and is sure people don't want her to succeed. Nothing concerns her except med school and studying. She hates her sister, who is 22 and also in med school. She states her sister is always putting her down, but that since she has a "disease" everyone takes her side. She's angry at everything, but mostly that all she does is study and work and she wonders if this will be forever.
9/6/2012 6:00:00 AM
Kesay is 32 and has plenty of ideas going through his head -- he just can't concentrate enough to make them happen. His English isn't as good as he'd like, and he has trouble getting his ideas across to his co-workers and superiors. He knows if he could learn better English his whole life -- personal and professional -- would be better, but when he gets home from work, he is too tired to study.
9/2/2012 2:00:00 PM
Lisha is 46 and a mother of three. Successful yet confused, she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and had moments of intense energy and racing thoughts followed by bouts of depression. She's been in unhealthy relationships and now questions her judgment of the men she chooses. What do you think -- is there a way to make better life decisions when one has a mood disorder? Can medication allow a person to think more clearly or does it make that part worse?Everything else is good, she just wants better boyfriends.
8/19/2012 6:00:00 AM
Cathy's 47 year old husband died shortly after their horrific car accident. It's been a year and a half, but she is still feeling the survivor's guilt. When she does manage to have a fun day, she feels guilty that he's not there to share it with her. She is seeing a psychiatrist and social worker, but doesn't feel like she's making any progress. Do you have thoughts to share with her?
8/17/2012 2:00:00 PM
Madeleine is 26 years old and is dating for the first time. She has always lived with her parents and grandparents and has always been obedient. Her mother disapproves of her boyfriend. Says he's ugly, lazy and cannot provide for her. Her mother, while caring for her father after his stroke, has emotionally blackmailed her, saying if she moves out it will kill her grandpa. She wants to move out, but neither she nor her boyfriend work, as he is supported by his own mother. How does your solution compare to mine?