Dear Dr. Archer,
I was sexually, physically and mentally abused as a child. Both of my parents were on meth my whole life. My mom owed money to a drug dealer, and when I was 14, he raped me.
I got married when I was 16 and had a child by the time I was 17. At age 18, my mom died a horrible death due to cancer. It was when she died that I found out my father was not my father. We drifted apart for five years after that.
I was a good mother until I was 26. I started using meth for about two years, got into trouble, and I've been clean and healthy since. Last year I was working for the state of California at the Public Authority as a hospice nurse. I was laid off, and my unemployment benefits ran out about a month ago.
My little family is in bad shape. I'm continuously looking for work, and this morning I spent the whole day out, looking. I got home around 5:00 this evening. I have two daughters, ages 17 and 14. My 14 year old suffers from depression and anxiety because of our situation.
My ex-husband is not around. When I was 26 he left me for a 17 year old, leaving us with nothing. He lives in a big, beautiful house on the beach. He pays just enough support as to not to get in trouble with the state. It was when he left us that I got in trouble.
I'm 37 years old now. That's it; my story in a nut shell. Thank you for your time.
Your life has truly been a challenge, and I am so sorry you've had such obstacles placed in front of you. However, you impress me because you don't blame others or say why me; you just state the facts. Your daughters are lucky to have such a strong role model.
Seek out any type of assistance you can get. Go to your local Social Security Office
. Also try this site for Single Moms
to see if you qualify for a governmental grant which is strictly for single, unemployed moms. Also, Laura, go to Family
, where you can apply for assistance in receiving financial assistance with utilities.
Remember to never give up, but by the tone of your letter I don't think I have anything to worry about. You are a true survivor, Laura. I wish you and your daughters nothing but the best.