Life Issues
Dr. Richard Thinks This Website Is Inappropriate
10/24/2011 6:00:15 AM
Dear Dr. Archer,
There's more to psychotherapy and psychiatry and psychological advice than simply taking someone's story off a computer screen and forming a response. 

People try to help themselves using your website in the same manner that they try to diagnose themselves by using WebMD. Your understanding of these people is limited to reading the text they send you. I say it's not enough.

From one psychiatrist to another, this isn't right. It's great that you are able to offer "common sense guidance" and "medical expertise," but the Internet is not the place to do it.

You should know better, Doctor
Dr. Richard, M.D.

Dear Dr. Richard,
Have you looked to see where some of these letters to this website come from? Large and small cities from around the U.S., small rural towns, the Philippines, Italy, France, Venezuela, Greece, India, China, just to name a few. Do you think every one of these people has the access or money to see a doctor? 

I stipulate that writers must be legal adults before I answer a question. I also state that they can tell me anything that is on their mind, ask a question, state a problem, even recommend a solution for others.

I stipulate that I cannot -- nor would I ever attempt to -- make a diagnosis over the Internet. But what I try my best to do is offer solutions and guidance to help each and every person who writes in.

I look at my life and consider myself blessed beyond belief. I have been given opportunities that have opened so many doors, and I am so very grateful. In order to give something back, I started this website.

I work on it for at least 2 to 3 hours every single day, seven days a week, 365 days a year.  I receive no, zero, nada compensation for this. In fact it cost me money, a lot of money, to pay for all the things involved.

If you think my website is so bad and so inappropriate since I do not have face-to-face meetings with these folks, I challenge you to put your money where your mouth is.

Start opening your clinic to the public free of charge for a day a week. Spend hours with those who are troubled, need a second opinion, are devastated by their circumstances, and who are too financially strapped to afford a doctor. Will you do it? 

I choose this platform because it's global; I reach folks all over the world and the vast majority want just a little advice, a bit of encouragement or some words of hope.

So, Dr. Richard, will you take my challenge? Do you realize how many people out there are hurting? Will you offer yourself, just because it's the right thing to do? Will you challenge your colleagues to do the same? 

We have the capability of changing -- improving – the way mental health services are rendered. Not everyone needs to see a shrink, not everyone needs a full eval and not everyone can afford it, even if they need it.

Read some of the letters I have received if you haven't done so. See if you think that folks are not  getting a little something from this. No, it’s not perfect, yes I can only go by what they tell me and yes, I realize its limitations. But, would you deny a person who is in need of help, a bit of free advice? 

Frankly, Doctor, you should know better.
Dr. Archer





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27 Comments
10/24/2011 9:34:15 AM
By the way, wherever there was a sign of or enquiry on a psychiatric disorder, Dr. Archer has always encouraged his readers to visit a psychiatrist in person. He never diagnosed on line, but he offered support and advice. He offered that, very, very generously.

Well, we all know that any good effort, of something special has enemies too, and here is just some proof. The better we are, the more emenies may crop up. But this doesn't change one bit for all of us here, who believe in Dr. Archer and have benefited from his advice. Because as I said, there is normally a lot of war, against a great achievement. And Dr. Archer is a great achiever. I wish more doctors would take up such a burden and welfare task, as Dr. Archer has done. I know he devotes his time and his whole life in it. All this is remarkable, fascinating, charitable and charismatic. And it could only come from a totally charismatic person. This will cause inevitably some jealousy. Because not everyone is able to be so gifted, like he is.
10/24/2011 11:13:28 AM
There are far more people out there without the financial means to obtain therapy than there are those who can afford it, even in the United States. There are no options for most people. When I hear anyone criticizing a professional for doing what he can for the vast amount of people who have no other help available, it really makes me mad. In the media, I hear comments all the time recommending people simply go seek therapy as a solution to their problems, when in fact, that is simply not a possibility for most people. When I hear these type of statements, whether it's media, health professionals, or politicians, it tells me how insulated the person making them is from reality. When a professional has no concept of the reality out there, I then have to wonder if their own lives are too lofty to effectively treat or represent anyone without their advantages.

Media tends to talk only in terms of "rich" and "poor," meaning unemployed and indigent, but here in the US, what is rarely discussed is the bigger problem of the working poor, such as myself, who have no health insurance, no dental insurance, and certainly no mental health insurance and between two jobs, only makes enough to pay mortgage and utilities, but not enough to pay taxes or healthcare. We have contributed more taxes than any other sector, yet many of us fall through the cracks entirely. Talk of ending Medicare or Social Security, after we have paid for it all our lives, enrages us, as you are now seeing with the protests in various cities. We should be supporting those people since they represent the heart of our country, instead of sanctioning their arrests.

I am a regular reader of this forum, and I can tell you that Dr. Archer is the first to tell a person who writes in when he does not have enough information to fully advise. However, he offers a well-educated insightful array of common-sense advice that can only help educate and enlighten. It doesn't take three years of therapy to advise the legions of abused women out there to get themselves and the kids out of that situation and offer some advice how to best go about it. It doesn't take $30,000 in therapy to tell someone they shouldn't be sleeping with their close relatives. You don't have to perform a battery of tests on someone whose self-esteem is clearly in the tank after a divorce or job loss to tell them to put one foot in front of the other and get out of the house and go do something they enjoy.

We all wish we had the luxury of personalized in-depth attention to our mental well-being, but most of us have neither the time nor money for it. Additionally, there are many people who would never admit their problems any way except anonymously, so this offers them the only forum they would use. Dr. Archer fills a gap and by posing his intelligent solutions to universal problems and has helped many, many people take another look at themselves and perhaps find a healthier path.
10/25/2011 1:31:40 AM
I am not as eloquent as the two ladies who have already commented...but I agree with every word. I cannot thank Dr. Archer enough for what he does on this website. There are people who are desperate for some good advice on serious issues. I cannot afford counseling, and I would much rather get advice on here than from a coworker in a restaurant kitchen. I have no parents, or other older family to go to for advice and a caring word. My husband can only do so much. I am not stupid; I realize this online help is not the same as months of office visits. But for many issues it is enough; it is vastly better than NOTHING. Since Dr. Archer says up front that he cannot diagnose, only give advice, I think that takes care of any ethical doc issues. It is just getting tips and advice, like one would from a friend, except it's much, much better advice than I would get from my friends or coworkers. It is here I learned about the term enabling, and therefore stopped enabling a friend, and started to actually help my friend instead. It is here that I got a better picture on what is the difference between "expecting too much" and not putting up with ridiculous treatment in a relationship. Some advice I've read on here has helped me be a bit better parent( consider your kids with every single little decision), friend(listen, don't tell them how to solve it) and wife ( you can't change people)...This site has helped my self esteem and my realization that I am in charge of my life. So, Doctor Archer, thank you, from the bottom of my heart!
10/25/2011 4:14:15 AM
"Depends".
10/25/2011 4:40:10 AM
Interesting discussion. I agree with both of you.

Psychotherapy is not accessible to all, and this forum brings it closer to those in need. The readers and askers understand that therapy is not being discoursed via the website, but the guidance provided sets them in the helpful direction. Also, Dr Dale tells the people asking to seek help.
10/25/2011 2:10:14 PM
Dr. Richard,
Dr Archer is doing what he loves, Obviously very passionately connected to people to reach out the way he does. We all have our destinations of where we want to be in Life, His website is a awesome reference for people to seek out information on medical or clinical problems. The participants including myself have been put through the ringer by the medical industry and the rising cost of healthcare places us in the position to take a more pro active role in our own health. You have No idea how Manipulative the Medical industry has become. I know 1st hand when it comes to my sons. My oldest son was placed on Concerta by his pediatrician, without ruling out any neurological disorders through a neurologist. He was on that med for 2 years, up till 3am every night and couldn't stay awake for school. Only to find out 3 years later from his neurologist that he had partial epilepsy and the drug intensifies seizures. How can we trust physicians if they are not watching out for the medical welfare of our children properly. You are doing a great disservice to your patients if you are not giving to your community. Just as i had one pediatrician stop treating my kids because of 2 missed appointments, over being late due to Autism meltdowns at school that takes longer to turn them around with no intervention in place, due the schools not assessing my kids at the age that they should have been. In between the laxed attitudes of School districts here in California and the physicians. The very people who taken oaths to care for children and adults whether it be medical or education has become so restricted on the roles they play in our lives. We have to fill the gaps and be proactive in them to protect our families.
DDA
10/25/2011 10:04:04 PM
Thank you Marcia, very kind.
DDA
10/25/2011 10:04:32 PM
Thanks for your support Lola.
10/26/2011 2:45:13 PM
It's totally true Dr. Archer. The bigger the achievement, the more the hit, sometimes. But, we are experienced tennis players! Who wins in the end, is all that matters! You have already won. Many times! :-)
10/26/2011 8:58:56 PM
What I can add is this:
There is a world full of people out there (here) with a world full of varying experiences and a wide range of resulting knowledge and various lingual ranges. What one may not be comfortable speaking eye-to-eye with a tertiary qualified 'specialist' about, can be brought out and discussed in a healthy manner by like-minded people with experience in similar situations with the verbal skills to communicate this experience in laymen terms & relay advice in the way that a person can connect with and understand.

Rome wasn't built in a day, nor is the knowledge of one man - so to speak. That's the beauty of the world wide web, it reaches ppl, knowledge AND experience far beyond the physical realm of an office or board room. It reaches EVERYONE. It's a wealth of knowledge in itself and lets face it too, Dr Richard, often the people with the biggest problems, who are most at risk, can not afford 'professional' one-on-one advice, financially - you people aren't cheap!!

Bottom line, a handful of empathy and a little common-man understanding is sometimes worth a room full of BOARD CERTIFIED PSYCHIATRISTS. No offence DDA haha, I thoroughly enjoy these blogs and if I can help a little or alot through my own experience and effective communication skills, so be it. Keep up the good work.
DDA
10/28/2011 1:09:50 AM
Becky, I was for a moment, at a loss for words. You spoke from your heart very eloquently, and I truly appreciate your kindness. Just knowing I've helped one person makes this worthwhile. Knowing someone is getting even more from it is truly special. Thank you again!
DDA
10/28/2011 1:10:20 AM
Kinda like life isn’t it John? All depends……..
DDA
10/28/2011 1:10:45 AM
Thank you, Shar.
DDA
10/28/2011 1:11:50 AM
As always, great input Sherry.
DDA
10/28/2011 10:48:46 AM
Appreciate the support, Marcia. You offer so much!
DDA
10/28/2011 10:49:30 AM
I always enjoy your input, Natasha. And BTW, I’m trying to prove that a board certified psychiatrist can have commen sense. :)
10/28/2011 2:32:54 PM
Thank you, my beloved Professor, for my master's degree!!
10/30/2011 3:46:37 PM
Board certified psychiatrists like yourself are very much in need in this 'crazy' world sir (mind the pun) ;-) I am very happy to see that there are still educated people who care and put humanity and empathy before ego, academic or otherwise. It's a blessing to the less fortunate out there to have Drs like yourself to turn to, so easily and accessable. Dr Richard could take a leaf out of your book & put his money where his mouth is, as you said.
Sue
10/31/2011 9:38:51 AM
Everyone pretty much said everything I would have said. I visit Dr. Dale's website often in hopes of finding information that may help me as well as giving my 2 cents worth in hopes of helping someone else that has a problem. Like many others, I cannot afford to visit a therapist therefore I look forward to visiting Dr. Dale's website in hopes of finding some advice. Of course Dr. Dale always mentions for that person to try and get help as he himself cannot give a diagnosis on the internet (like he mentions in all posts). With that being said Dr. Richard, if you don't like what Dr. Dale is doing then keep your comments to yourself please.
10/31/2011 1:38:17 PM
Hey Doctor Archer,
If someone is not against what you are doing , then you are not making a change. Change always comes with opposition and later accepted as the norm. But I don't have to tell you that, KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING !!!
Pedro Tweed
DDA
11/1/2011 4:30:08 PM
Thanks Natasha.
DDA
11/1/2011 4:30:54 PM
Thanks for the support, Sue.
DDA
11/1/2011 4:56:32 PM
Thanks for the support, Pedro. I will give you a quote from Chapter 1 of my book:

"It ought to be remembered that there is nothing more difficult to take in hand, more perilous to conduct, or more uncertain in its success, than to take the lead in the introduction of a new order of things. Because the innovator has for enemies all those who have done well under the old conditions, and lukewarm defenders in those who may do well under the new.” ~~~ Niccolo Machiavelli
11/2/2011 7:18:13 PM
I love that quote Dr. Archer, very well put and makes you think. But let it be noted that without comformists, the ideals of innovators would never take off, so in a sense, it's nice and productive to have followers of new ideas in order for them to become the accepted 'norm' and be able to assist many in thier invention. Like this website. Again, you have done a great job in getting it up & running and quite clearly, regardless of opposition - out of envy or otherwise - we all appreciate it and we follow for a reason. There are many ideas that really are bad ones & that's generally the reason they fail to take off, unlike this website. :)
DDA
11/8/2011 1:51:06 AM
Thanks for the support, Natasha. Much appreciated.
8/10/2012 1:26:50 PM
Dear Dr Archer,

Thank you for writing the book.Thank you for giving 'free' advise,encouragement,hope & empathy through this 'free' online website. You have no idea how your book & online web have helped me without going to a mental health clinic.

2 years ago my siblings (3) went through the darkest period in their lives.My brother is mildly retarded & was diagnosed with schizophrenia & depression.My younger sister was diagnosed with bipolar & depression.My elder sister was diagnosed with GAD & depression.

As I am Currently living in another country away from them,I could only support them through phone calls,money & went back home town for 3 times that year.
Since then,there are much better & stabled.My bro got the right type of medications & dosage,my younger sis found a job & now on very low dosage of medication.My elder sis is off medication & declare fit by her doctor.

So earlier this year when everyone were much better,I found myself not being myself.I realised that this could be some post trauma symptoms (traumatised that they were
sick). A close friend of mine who recently experiencing depression found out about your book through Oprah Winfrey's recommendation bought your book & gave me one.After reading your book Dr Archer,I truly have understood myself better,able to recognised my high traits & learning & trying now to bank in to the ascendent strengths.Also I was able to understand where the feelings of blues are coming from.
Because you decided to give back,I am blessed.My family & loved ones was blessed.I think I am spared from spiralling down to depression,spared from spending substantial amount of money to mental clinic & my loved ones are spared from knowing that I may need to walk their path too.

So to your 'colleague' Doctor Richard,I hope he dares to take up your challenge Doctor Archer.So there will be more people that dares to relieve this world that is in dire need of mental wellbeing attention.
If not,he should just keep his comments in his head & his mouth shut tight.

Once again,I can't say this enough
THANK YOU
DDA
8/11/2012 11:55:32 AM
Thank you, Vivien, for both your support and your uplifting letter -- I wish you all the best!
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