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Grace's Childhood Dictates The Low Self Esteem She Feels Today

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 10 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Grace grew up listening to verbal abuse from family members. She's always been shy, and now at 52, she wants to overcome her low self esteem. Click here to read more.

Nancy Rates "Better Than Normal"

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 11 Nov 2012 10:00:00 GMT

Nancy has studied personality disorders as an undergraduate psychology minor and reviews 'Better Than Normal". Click here to read more.

Tasha Has Suddenly Become Shy Again

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 24 Oct 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Tasha used to be shy, but when she was in her 20's she got over her shyness. Now she's 36, and her shyness has returned. Click here to read more.

Daisy Asks Why Did God Allow Her To Survive An Attempted Abortion

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 03 Oct 2012 10:00:00 GMT

Daisy is 22 and a third child. The first two were wanted, while she was a surprise. Her parents attempted to abort the pregnancy, but she survived. She wants to know why God would let this happen? Click here to read more.

At 50, Marie Still Hasn't Found Her Life's Calling

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Marie read my book 'Better Than Normal' and shares with us that at 50, she still hasn't found a job she finds rewarding and complete. Click here to read more.

Jumbo Can't Stop Arguing With His Friend

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 13 Jul 2012 18:00:32 GMT

Jumbo can't seem to stop arguing with his friend, and it's always over stupid, small things. He says it's due to past failed friendships, but this friend has done nothing wrong. He wonders what he can do. Thoughts? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Phil Cannot Look Others In The Eye

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 20 Jun 2012 22:17:14 GMT

Phil is a bartender with a big problem. He finds he can no longer look his customers in the eye! He has become self-conscious about this, and obsesses about it every day. Now he's diverting his eyes, feels shifty and wants to be able to look his customers in the eye again and just talk normally. He asks what's wrong, and how can he overcome this? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Lorena Wants To Use The 8 Traits To Define Greatness

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 06:00:38 GMT

Lorena is a doctoral candidate, and is writing her dissertation on School Leadership Characteristics In High Achieving/High Poverty Schools. She asks my permission to use the personality traits I discuss in my book, 'Better Than Normal' to better understand what makes a successful school leader.

Linda Wants Her Traits To Work For Her And Asks How?

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 21 May 2012 21:30:51 GMT

Linda is divorced and works part time. She hates her job and is trying to find something else, but so far no such luck. She's creative, but thinks people view her as weird and ugly. She wants to put her creativity to work for her, but how? She doesn't like to deal with people because she thinks they don't like the way she looks. I give her my thoughts; what are yours? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Harold Questions My Outlook On Mental Health

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 21 May 2012 10:12:10 GMT

Harold questions the title "From Stigma to Strength" which I discuss in an interview with 'The Advocate'. He also thinks it's amusing that I say many mental disorders have gone from being stigmatized to glamorized. Do you agree? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Nicole Is Miserable Because She Doesn't Want To Be Shy

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 12 May 2012 02:00:33 GMT

Nicole is a 20 year old college student who is shy. At home she imagines herself being outgoing and having a passion for life and ambitious. In reality, her shyness is holding her back. She's getting tired of pretending to be happy, and asks what she can do to overcome both her shyness and her perfectionism. What would you advise her? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Harry Wonders About Compensating For His Shyness

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 08 May 2012 10:00:27 GMT

Harry, at the age of 70, read my book and finds he is a mix of the shy and magical thinking traits. He asks about compensating for shyness, so he doesn't feel like he's taken for granted. He wants to push back and asks my thoughts on compensation for shyness. What do you think? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Bartek's Girlfriend Is Too Shy

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 08:30:43 GMT

Bartek's girlfriend of eight months is painfully shy. At first she was too shy to tell his parents hello, but eight months later she still can't bring herself to say hello! His parents think she's rude, and this is really bringing him down. He wants to know how to help her start talking to his family. Suggestions? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Lucy Enjoys Her Solitary Life, But Everyone Else Is Worried

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 08:38:34 GMT

Lucy doesn't care much for people. She's happiest when she's alone, taking trips, gardening and reading. She has a couple of friends that she sees two or three times a year and that's just fine with her. The problem is her parents, those friends and her boss tend to think she's depressed and needs help. Does she need to change her life to make them feel better? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Sue Ann Doesn't Want To Be Shy

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 09:30:09 GMT

Sue Ann views her shyness with disgust, and therefore puts herself in uncomfortable situations to try to become more outgoing. But when there, she doesn't want people to think she's stuck up, but she has a difficult time talking to others she doesn't know. She keeps trying, but it's not working and she's feeling worse. Do you have advice for her? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

D.A. Can't Finish What She's Started

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 14:45:16 GMT

D.A. is a 31 year old mother who tries to be a good mom, but feels she falls short. She never finishes anything she starts, can't keep a job for any length of time and now dreads leaving her home. Whenever she goes out, she can be sociable, but then she can become impulsive and angry. Do you have suggestions? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

My book, 'Better Than Normal: How What Makes You Different Can Make You Exceptional'

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 20:00:51 GMT

My book, 'Better Than Normal: How What Makes You Different Can Make You Exceptional' is scheduled for release March 13, 2012. There's a new way to look at "normal" and here's a tip -- it is NOT all good! After all normal = average. Instead of taking a pill to make you "normal', embrace your quirkiness to help define your greatness. Click here to learn more and order.

Joli Has Never Been Accepted

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 17:00:41 GMT

Joli is 43, and for her entire life she has been misunderstood by others. No one holds her in high regards, no one gives her the benefit of the doubt and no one gives her the respect she gives others. She has always wanted to love intensely and be loved just as passionately, but has never had that opportunity. She's sensitive and cries easily, and this has hurt her to the core. She's afraid her time is running out since her health is poor, and now she's losing hope. Is there some comfort you can give to her? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Terri Reviews My Book

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 20:00:44 GMT

Terri reviews books for Amazon.com and just read my forthcoming book, 'Better Than Normal: How What Makes You Different Can Make You Exceptional' which is being released March 13 from Random House. Read her review on Amazon. Thank you, Terri, for the great review!

Kiana Wants The Secret To Happiness

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 06:00:15 GMT

Kiana is 41, and cannot remember being happy. Not good in sports or school, she was relentlessly teased and didn't fit in. She asks why has this happened to her? What did she do to deserve this treatment? She now wants to turn her life around, to be happy, and she wants to know how. Do you have some advice for her? Click here to read more and leave a comment

Tina's Friends Constantly Insult Her

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 22:00:42 GMT

Tina has two friends who emphasize everything that's wrong with her. She shouldn't be a vegetarian, she picks the wrong clothes, she listens to the wrong music. She feels indebted to them because in the past they supported her both financially and mentally. She tried breaking away from them before, but they insulted her on a social network site and by phone. Now she's not sure what to do. Is she really that bad? What would you say about her 'friends?' Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Aylin Can't Make Friends, Not Even Online

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 17:00:14 GMT

Aylin can't seem to make friends, not even online. Alone, with not even her relatives liking her, she is considered an oddball. She is withdrawn and shy and wants to get over these feelings, but how? Click here to read more and leave a comment.

I Like A Girl, But She's Bad For Me

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 16:38:33 GMT

She adores the attention I give her. She asks a million questions about me to my friends, and says many things I'd like to hear. She admitted she was insecure, after I said it about myself. She's charming and makes herself the most innocent person. Click here to read more and leave a comment.

I Come Across As Quiet, Shy, and Boring

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 22:40:53 GMT

I'm really not shy. It's just that I feel like talking to as few people as possible. With the people I like, I talk a great deal and have plenty to share with them. Click here to read more and leave a comment.

Accepting Yourself, Nose And All!

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 22:35:55 GMT

Since Gayle was a small child, there was nothing her mother didn't think needed fixing. Her nose was too big, her hair too wild, her breasts too small. She spent years fighting to keep her imperfect, yet original, nose. Click here to read more and leave a comment.