Personal Life Issues

Unemployed, Ladyhawk Feels Like A Failure

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 13 Jun 2013 06:00:00 GMT

"Ladyhawk" received a master's degree in management, got married, moved to a new city, got pregnant and three years later still cannot find a job. Her husband and in-laws are no longer supportive of her and want her to get a job -- NOW.

Linda Wants Her Traits To Work For Her And Asks How?

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 31 May 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Linda is divorced and works part time. She hates her job and is trying to find something else, but so far no luck. She's creative, but thinks people view her as weird and ugly. She wants to put her creativity to work for her, but how? She doesn't like to deal with people because she thinks they don't like the way she looks. I give her my thoughts; what are yours?

Lisa Questions Her Traits And Addiction

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 23 May 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Lisa grew up in a dysfunctional home where mom and dad hated each other, and they only shared one meal each year, where mom would just about throw the turkey at dad. She has an adventurous spirt, hence her job as an international flight attendant. She wonders if she's an alcoholic, wonders why she's a multitasker, why she prefers younger men and why her life is so disorganized. She wonders if she needs to return to AA, return to basics or just slow her life down. Thoughts?

Naved Has Lost His Confidence

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 12 May 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Naved used to fight boys bigger and stronger than him and never lost a fight. Then he fought a boy weaker than him, and lost. He lost all of his confidence, and years later he still cannot find his confidence. Although this helped curb his aggression, he'd like to be confident again, so asks what he can do. Thoughts?

Jane Is Suspicious Of Others

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Jane's past is riddled with pain, sorrow and backstabbing. Still, she considers herself positive, friendly and loyal -- on the surface.

Jen's Troubled Childhood Is Affecting Her Now

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Jen is 34 and mother to two. Being raised as a Jehovah witness, she was ridiculed as a child. Her father was alcoholic and her mother ran off with another man, leaving her behind.

Bob Is Alienating His Friends And Doesn't Know Why

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 05 Apr 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Bob is a 79 year old man in good health. Suddenly, he is being asked to resign from many of his social groups that he has belonged to, some for years! Without giving particulars, he asks what could be wrong, what's he doing to alienate all these people. Many people have what I call a blind spot, where they don't see themselves for who they really are. How can he correct this?

Should Rony Tell The University About His Friend Cheating?

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Rony is at a university and got very close to another student. This student, however, partied all the time, and wanted to cheat off Rony and others.

Michelle Needs To Fall In Love

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 17 Mar 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Michelle is a 34 year old plus-sized woman who has a strong faith in God but is lonely. She never dated in high school or college, but didn't worry about it because she was too busy. Now she'd wants deperately to fall in love and have a family.

Justin's Non Stop Flirting Ruins All His Relationships

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:00:00 GMT

Justin is a 50 year old male and cannot seem to maintain his relationships. He was married twice, and even though his wives still say they love him, they could no longer tolerate his blatant flirting. He's getting up in age now and desperately wants a relationship that will last.

Al Wants To Know The Key To Finding Happiness

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 26 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Al struggles with happiness. He's a successful orthodontist, has a lovely family, lives in a beautiful home, tries different hobbies whenever he pleases..... yet happiness eludes him.

Chanchal Feels Her Parents Didn't Love Her Enough

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 14:00:00 GMT

Chanchal looks at her friends with envy, because their parents seem to love them more than her parents love her. She feels she didn't receive as much love, because her parents' careers kept them from home. She also feels lost and confused any time someone who is close to her leaves her life.

John Has Lost It All And Doesn't Know How To Go On

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 19 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

John overcame incredible odds, and was on his own at 12. Ultimately, he owned his own company and had 40 employees. Then the economy crashed and at 61, he finds himself in a precarious situation. He lost his business and is fighting to keep his home.

Anju Asks Should A Man's Priorities Lie With His Wife Or Mother?

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 14:00:00 GMT

Anju is 25, and she and her husband live with her husband's parents. She asks where a husband's priorities should lie -- with his wife or with his mother?

Art Diagnoses The President As A Sociopath

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Art shares his distinct self proclaimed abilities of being able to diagnose a sociopaths without fail. He doesn't need a psychiatry or psychology degree to do this -- it's a natural talent!

Sana Cannot Get Over Her Troubled Past

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Sana enjoyed life until she was 14 and her parents went abroad and left her behind. When they returned, she did not feel love from her father, so sought it elsewhere. When her father discovered she had a relationship with a low life man, it ripped him out of her life. Now at 21, they no longer talk.

Jess's Boyfriend Says Her Vagina Is Weird

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 13 Dec 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Jess is 25 and has been with her boyfriend for about a year. He broke up once, saying he needed time. Now they're together again, but things are not good. He insists she slept around while they were apart, even though she was home, crying. He insults her physical appearance constantly and calls her a whore. He even says her vagina is deformed. She works a full time job plus a part time job, while he is TOTALLY unemployed. She's about to get her degree, while he never completed high school or got a GED.

Sunshine's Jealous Friend Makes Her Feel Guilty

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Sunshine is 21 and has a very dear friend who is competitive, envious and jealous. Whenever her friend gets jealous, then Sunshine feels guilty and stops whatever her friend is jealous about. For example she is a great guitarist but cannot play around her friend because she gets mad.

Jan Gives An Important Lesson Regarding Forgiveness

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 11 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Jan wrote to me a year ago regarding unresolved trust issues due to a childhood incident. During the past year, she has learned a priceless lesson on the value and importance of forgiveness -- not for the perpetrator, but for herself.

Jennifer's Insurance Won't Pay For Her Eating Disorders

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 26 Nov 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Jennifer is 43 and has had an eating disorder since she was 14. She lost 220 pounds, but now suffers from bulimia and anorexia. Restricting herself to 600 calories a day, she binges and purges everything she eats. She takes more than 30 laxatives a day, water pills daily, speed walks daily for six miles and rides her bike for miles, as well. During all of this, all she can think of is food, food, food. Her doctor says she needs inpatient care, but her insurance refuses to pay.

Sarah Feels Too Guilty Whenever She Says "No"

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Sarah feels she needs a therapist, but can't afford one. She cannot say "no" because she feels overwhelming guilt, and doesn't want the other person to feel badly. She's full of apologies, yet still cannot say no without feeling the guilt.

29 And Laid Off, Gaurav Lives With His Parents And Needs A Job

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Gaurav finds himself in a position he was not expecting. He's 29, and lost his job six months ago, with no new job in sight. He's depressed, as he must live with his parents.

Des Hates Her Small Breasts

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 04 Oct 2012 02:00:00 GMT

Des is 26, 5' 9" and much taller than her mom and sisters. Her small breasts do not fit her frame, and she finds it a challenge to find bras that fit her correctly. It has caused a self-esteem problem, especially since a childhood illness caused her to be big boned and delay puberty until age 17. She asks what can she do to accept herself the way she is?

Daisy Asks Why Did God Allow Her To Survive An Attempted Abortion

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 03 Oct 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Daisy is 22 and a third child. The first two were wanted, while she was a surprise. Her parents attempted to abort her, but she survived. She asks why God would allow this to happen, if children are gifts from God. I attempt to answer a very difficult question.

Ajay Says No One Likes Him And Wonders Why

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 06:00:01 GMT

Ajay is a 43 year old businessman who has a 36 year old housewife and two teenage children. He has a hard time dealing with others, though he tries to be a good person. He helps the poor, homeless animals and those weaker than he. And yet, despite all this, no one likes him. They're either jealous or want to compete with him, and he's not sure what's going on.