Personal Life Issues

Jane Is Suspicious Of Others

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Jane's past is riddled with pain, sorrow and backstabbing. Still, she considers herself positive, friendly and loyal -- on the surface.

Michelle Needs To Fall In Love

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 17 Mar 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Michelle is a 34 year old plus-sized woman who has a strong faith in God but is lonely. She never dated in high school or college, but didn't worry about it because she was too busy. Now she'd wants deperately to fall in love and have a family.

Justin's Non Stop Flirting Ruins All His Relationships

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:00:00 GMT

Justin is a 50 year old male and cannot seem to maintain his relationships. He was married twice, and even though his wives still say they love him, they could no longer tolerate his blatant flirting. He's getting up in age now and desperately wants a relationship that will last.

Chanchal Feels Her Parents Didn't Love Her Enough

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 14:00:00 GMT

Chanchal looks at her friends with envy, because their parents seem to love them more than her parents love her. She feels she didn't receive as much love, because her parents' careers kept them from home. She also feels lost and confused any time someone who is close to her leaves her life.

How Does Kim Learn To Trust Again?

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 31 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Kim left her husband when her ex repeatedly cheated and lied. Now, a year later, she questions the actions of her present boyfriend. She suspects he may be cheating as well, because when he receives calls, texts or is on Facebook, he turns his phone away from her.

Dina Can't Overcome Her Brother's Death

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 18 Dec 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Dina is 23, and three months ago her little brother died in a car accident. She took care of the arrangements as well as her mother and siblings during that rough time. Now she's depressed and anxious, fighting with her fiancé and doesn't feel like going to work.

Jess's Boyfriend Says Her Vagina Is Weird

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 13 Dec 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Jess is 25 and has been with her boyfriend for about a year. He broke up once, saying he needed time. Now they're together again, but things are not good. He insists she slept around while they were apart, even though she was home, crying. He insults her physical appearance constantly and calls her a whore. He even says her vagina is deformed. She works a full time job plus a part time job, while he is TOTALLY unemployed. She's about to get her degree, while he never completed high school or got a GED.

Jan Gives An Important Lesson Regarding Forgiveness

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 11 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Jan wrote to me a year ago regarding unresolved trust issues due to a childhood incident. During the past year, she has learned a priceless lesson on the value and importance of forgiveness -- not for the perpetrator, but for herself.

Sherry Talks About Her New Online Relationship

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 01 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Sherry shares details about her new online relationship with someone she's never met. He is now one of her most valued friends. Teaching each other much, being there for each other has formed a special friendship that is stronger than anything she has ever felt. This is not romantic in nature, but in many ways stronger.

Meggie Asks: If A Man Is Truly In Love, Can He Be Attracted To Another?

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 17 Oct 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Meggie asks if a man is in love, can he find other women beautiful and attractive? If a man claims to love another, yet becomes aroused if he sees cleavage or nudity -- does that mean he doesn't truly love his mate?

Des Hates Her Small Breasts

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 04 Oct 2012 02:00:00 GMT

Des is 26, 5' 9" and much taller than her mom and sisters. Her small breasts do not fit her frame, and she finds it a challenge to find bras that fit her correctly. It has caused a self-esteem problem, especially since a childhood illness caused her to be big boned and delay puberty until age 17. She asks what can she do to accept herself the way she is?

Shelley Is 42 And Still Waiting For Her Soulmate

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Shelly is 42 and still single. She's been hoping to find her soulmate, but so far the guys she likes aren't looking to settle down, while the guys who want her are just all wrong. She's asking if there's something she can do to change her luck.

Lisha Doesn't Trust Herself To Find A Healthy Relationship

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 02 Sep 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Lisha is 46 and a mother of three. Successful yet confused, she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and had moments of intense energy and racing thoughts followed by bouts of depression. She's been in unhealthy relationships and now questions her judgment of the men she chooses. What do you think -- is there a way to make better life decisions when one has a mood disorder? Can medication allow a person to think more clearly or does it make that part worse?Everything else is good, she just wants better boyfriends.

Madeleine's Mother Disapproves Of Her Boyfriend

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Madeleine is 26 years old and is dating for the first time. She has always lived with her parents and grandparents and has always been obedient. Her mother disapproves of her boyfriend. Says he's ugly, lazy and cannot provide for her. Her mother, while caring for her father after his stroke, has emotionally blackmailed her, saying if she moves out it will kill her grandpa. She wants to move out, but neither she nor her boyfriend work, as he is supported by his own mother. How does your solution compare to mine?

Joshua Has No Confidence

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Joshua isn't as confident as he'd like to be. He can't speak in front of large groups without feeling nervous. He met a woman online, but she wants her space. He wonders if he should play sports again and wonders if he should transfer to another school. He just isn't sure of anything. Thoughts?

When Pissed-Off Discovered Her Boyfriend Was Married She Got Even

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 02 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

When Pissed-Off discovered her boyfriend was married she got even.

Teresa Found Her Sister's Sex Ad Online

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 26 May 2012 18:00:17 GMT

Teresa was surfing the Net and came across an escort/sexual favors ad. The problem was that the woman offering these services is her sister! Confronting her, the sister is now rude and angry. Teresa wants to know if her sister needs a psychiatrist?

Ashley's Husband Forbids Home Maintenance

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 24 May 2012 18:00:50 GMT

Ashley's husband of 30 years suffered his second heart attack. She loves him dearly, but since the second attack, he refuses to allow any maintenance or upkeep to their home. Walls remain half painted two years later; the screened porch is only partially screened. She can't have people over anymore, and the house needs work. What is she to do? Ideas?

Samuel Likes Being Alone, Yet Longs To Be With Others

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 06:00:58 GMT

Samuel was brought up in a Christian home, headed by a tyrant, his strict father. He was the youngest, and being anxious, he spent his time inside, eating and becoming fat. In high school he exercised, ate right and became fit and trim. Then his father was arrested for molesting a neighbor's eight year old daughter, and was sent to prison. He put the weight back on, started questioning his sexuality and wanted to talk to his mom, who was never available as she was dealing with the circumstances in her own way. Now he has lost the weight again, but feels unworthy - like what his dad did is all his fault. He wants to know if he needs therapy to feel better? What would you think?

Harriett Asks: To Be A Christian Or Not To Be A Christian

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 22:00:26 GMT

Harriett, 19, wants to live her life the way she wants. She questions the existence of God, Jesus and the Truth of the Bible. She wants proof of Jesus' existence, and says she will commit to Christianity only if she is convinced it's real and true. What say you?

Dan's Book Deals With Narcissism, Wealth And Family Dysfunction

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 14:00:05 GMT

Dan and his sister are the survivors of a family that consisted of narcissism, old money, sex abuse and mental illness. They now want to write a tell all book about their dysfunctional family, about well-to-do, educated individuals who cannot see their own dysfunction. Are the rich really different? Is the love of money really the root of evil?

J Broke Up With Her Boyfriend, And Then He Died

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:00:18 GMT

Jill fell madly in love with her boyfriend, until the alcohol and jealousy brought on abuse. She ended it, and he took it badly and sent her nasty notes, telling her about all the women he was dating. She knew he was hurting, but then she learned doctors found cancer, and he had just a few months to live. She went back and stayed with him for the last 2 weeks until he died, but she's left with so much guilt for dumping him when she did. How do you feel about this?

Karen Is Dealing With The Death Of Her Mom

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:00:43 GMT

Karen recently lost her mom, and she is having a difficult time dealing with her death. Not only was she a single mom, but she was also her best friend. She wonders how she can go on. Do you have words of comfort to ease her pain?

Forced To Have An Abortion, Hanan Can't Forget

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 06:00:12 GMT

Hanan is an Iraqi mom living in the US and was 17 when she was forced into an arranged marriage and 18 when she had her son. She divorced her husband, but 4 years later she was forced into another marriage to a man twice her age and became pregnant. She was forced to abort this pregnancy by her abusive husband. Now divorced again, she cannot move on; she's always asking 'what if'. So what if this happened to you? Would you be able to get over it?

How Does Aneesh Accept His Homosexuality?

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 22:00:24 GMT

Aneesh recently shared a bed with another man. There was fondling and touching, but no sex, but he never felt anything so amazing as that before. Now this guy no longer talks to him, and he doesn't know what to do or how to feel. He wants to get control over his mind. He asks how to get over these 'abnormal' feelings for other men. Is this possible?