Relationships

Becca's Fiance' Stays In Touch With His Ex Wife

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Becca is engaged, and while she is happily in love, she has a problem. Her fiancé remains in touch with his ex-wife, despite her asking him to stop.

Is Stacy's Boyfriend Still In Love With His Ex?

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Stacy's new boyfriend broke up with his previous girlfriend because she cheated on him. He keeps bringing it up to her over and over, saying he's afraid to love again and get hurt. She wonders if he's still holding a lit candle for the ex?

Olivia Refuses To Accept She Was NOT His Girlfriend

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 16 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Olivia liked a guy for ten years, and while she was madly in love with him, he repeatedly said they were just friends. They even tried dating -- but it lasted for one day -- when he confided she was more like a sister to him.

Can Scott Trust His Girlfriend?

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 03 Jan 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Scott has been with his girlfriend for four months. The first eight weeks were perfect, but he now realizes she has many male friends, who she talks to constantly on Facebook as well as other social media forms. He is becoming jealous and possessive, which is causing arguments and trouble.

Mlongo Got A Surprise Kiss And Now Is In Love

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Mlongo knew her friend for years, and considered him a good friend. One night he invited her to his place to watch a movie, and halfway through it he surprised her with a kiss. She wasn't prepared, so her response was one of shock. Now he has left for school and he says after thinking about it, they should remain just friends, since she did not respond to the kiss. She now finds herself in love with him, and wonders if this is all her fault because she didn't let him know how much she enjoyed the kiss at that time?

Rey Thinks He Ruined His Chances By Pushing Too Hard

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Rey was not looking for a relationship. He joined a sports league and met someone who liked him, but also wasn't looking for a relationship. Their friendship was great and they got close, but then suddenly his friend said Rey was moving too fast, and broke it off. They're still on the same team, but he's keeping a distance in order to be respectful. However, he's miserable and uncomfortable.

Must Marcia's Mate Share Her Morals?

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 23 Sep 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Marcia considers shared moral beliefs to be the most important factor in a relationship for the best compatibility. She asks if morals must be identical for a relationship to work.

Bev's Husband Doesn't Trust Her

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Bev and her husband married a year ago, and they have a two year old son. She is in the military, and met a guy last year before she was married. He texted her out of the blue, and now her husband thinks she is being unfaithful, even though she's never gotten together with him. Her husband moved out, but recently started visiting and mentioned starting over. Now he constantly checks her texts. She's in the military, and gets texts all the time! Now he wants a divorce, even though she has never been unfaithful. What do you think of this situation? Is there a chance it can last like this?

Nik's Girlfriend Threatens Suicide When He Tries To Break Up

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Every time Nik tries to break up with his girlfriend, she threatens to commit suicide. She tried slitting her wrists when a previous relationship ended, and he doesn't want a repeat situation. He asks how to get out of a relationship that's pulling him down. He can't live like this, but is afraid if he breaks up, she will kill herself. What would you do?

Doug Loves His Wife AND His Co Worker

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 18 Aug 2012 14:00:00 GMT

Doug loves his wife of 12 years, and adores his three children. However, he has fallen in love with a co-worker, whom he thinks of day and night. He doesn't want to leave his wife, yet doesn't want to give up this other woman. What is a guy to do?

Adi Got Her Whole Class Involved With Her Love Life

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Adi started pharmacy school last year, met a fellow student she liked, latched on and did not give him space. He broke it off, and she ended up getting the whole class involved in her love life. Now summer is almost over and school will begin soon. She wants to put this behind her and for him to start acting civil towards her and to get her class to move on, but wonders if it's too late. What do you tell her?

Jumbo Can't Stop Arguing With His Friend

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 13 Jul 2012 06:00:42 GMT

Jumbo can't seem to stop arguing with his friend, and it's always over stupid, small things. He says it's due to past failed friendships, but this friend has done nothing wrong. He wonders what he can do. Thoughts?

Helen Is Not Sure If Her Mate Is Appropriate

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 18:00:35 GMT

Helen is 29 and a survivor of a violent relationship. She finally met and fell in love with a 45 year old man whom she deeply trusts. However, he's the grandfather of her brother's girlfriend's son. The relationship is still secret, as she's afraid this will hurt the families. What do you think? Is this cause to deny herself the man she loves?

Candice's Lack Of Trust Ruined Her Relationship

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 06:00:56 GMT

Candice met a guy and they began to get to know each other. They called each other very often. He went to visit his dad on Father's Day and lost his phone. When she called, the recording said the phone was disconnected, and that's when her trust issues began. She told him several times she had trust issues, and he said he wouldn't hurt her, but she insisted a part of her didn't trust him. Then he replied that he decided the relationship wasn't working. Now she's begging him not to go and she'll never bring up the incident again. He says it's too late -- is it?

James Wants Advice On How To Build Strong Friendships

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 05 Jul 2012 18:00:02 GMT

James wants to have close, meaningful friendships, but he's just not sure how to go about it. He wants to discuss his worries, as well as other emotional subjects with those he is close to, but he's finding it difficult. He can't open up. Do you have advice?

David Wants To Help His Pregnant Ex-Girlfriend

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 18:00:45 GMT

David used to date a girl who broke up with him their sophomore year. Now she's a mom with a one month old baby and she got back in contact with him. One day she visited him and they had sex. The next day her boyfriend proposed and she said yes, but now she's sleeping with other guys. She says she will marry this guy, but she continues to hang out with other men. He wants to help her, but he's in no position to take care of her and a baby. What advice would you offer this man?

Shane Has Found The Perfect Mate, But Knows It Won't Last

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 06:00:37 GMT

Shane is in love! He has found the perfect match that makes him perfectly happy. The problem? It's so perfect, he's afraid HE will ruin it. He's afraid he will cheat or leave or get bored or somehow ruin it all, which causes him to be depressed. He asks how to get rid of the negative thoughts, enjoy this perfect relationship? He just feels nothing good ever lasts. What say you?

Sanal Proposed 3 Times To A Co-Worker, Now She Ignores Him

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 27 Jun 2012 18:00:28 GMT

Sanal is 29 and fell in love with a co-worker. In four months he asked her three times to marry him. She tried gently to dissuade him of his attention the first two times. The third time she got angry, said she didn't see him in that light and never will AND from now on to keep all talk between them strictly professional. He's devastated, and spoke to a psychiatrist, but is not happy with the advice. He wants advice on how to win her heart. What would you tell him?

Amanda Is Desperate To Keep Her Boyfriend

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 24 Jun 2012 06:00:43 GMT

Amanda and her boyfriend have lived together for a year, but lately they have been fighting. He wants to go out with his friends, often spending the night away and she wants him home with her. She admits she's bitchy, controlling, and clingy and although she's afraid she's pushing him away, can't seem to stop how she's acting. She says he's the only one who keeps her from cutting herself -- or worse -- and she will do anything to make him stay. Advice for Amanda?

Erica's Jealousy Is Driving Her Boyfriend Away

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 16 Jun 2012 06:00:06 GMT

Erica has been with her boyfriend for five years, and has a couple of children by him. She constantly needs reassurance from him that he loves her, and she doesn't trust him some of the time for no real reason. She does things that irritate him and make him angry, just to see if he really wants to be with her. She thinks of it as a "test" of his love for her. She knows she's killing the relationship, but doesn't know how to stop this destructive behavior. Thoughts or words of advice?

Should Rooha Marry Someone She Thinks She Loves?

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 11 Jun 2012 06:00:20 GMT

Rooha is 22 and pretty sure she loves the guy she plans to marry. Her guy doesn't love her as much as she loves him, but he thinks with time he will love her more.

Anna's Boyfriend Can't Marry A Non-Virgin

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 18:00:43 GMT

Anna has known a guy for a year and has dated him for almost two months. He cannot get over the fact that she's not a virgin, although her first sexual encounter was due to rape. He says she's perfect for him, but he cannot get over the fact that he will not be her first. She never plans on breaking up with him, but wants me to help solve her problem; she says she'll end her life if he leaves her. Weigh in, folks.

Michael Has Repeat Nightmares That His Wife Is Cheating

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 30 May 2012 18:00:03 GMT

Michael is 21 and was abandoned as a child by his mother. His father gained custody when he was 7, but he continued to have problems. He is now married, and dearly loves his wife who has been there for him through thick and thin. Lately, he is experiencing nightmares of her cheating on him, and they're coming every night and getting worse. He asks if they mean she is really cheating on him? What do you say?

Conan Asks How To Change His Girlfriend

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 29 May 2012 18:00:31 GMT

Conan and his girlfriend are both 33 and from different countries. He says she's from a country where women are known to be disagreeable - they score in the bottom 20% - and his girlfriend is no exception. She puts her needs before his, talks over him and doesn't want to hear his problems. If he wants advice, she gives it to him in a way that benefits HER. He asks what he can do to change her selfish ways?

Courtney Still Doesn't Know If He Likes Her

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 21 May 2012 06:00:48 GMT

Courtney wrote to me in December asking if a certain man was interested in her. She asked, and he said no. Now, five months later, he has a girlfriend but still seeks her company and hangs out with her all the time, and she wonders if she should she should bring it up again or end the friendship so she doesn't get hurt. What do you say?