Relationships

Chris's Boyfriend Still Loves His Ex Wife

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 18 Apr 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Chris has been in a six year relationship. The problem is that her boyfriend says he will always love his ex-wife -- the woman who walked out on him with another man.

Becca's Fiance' Stays In Touch With His Ex Wife

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Becca is engaged, and while she is happily in love, she has a problem. Her fiancé remains in touch with his ex-wife, despite her asking him to stop.

After A Two Year Separation, Jackie Is Still Not Divorced

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 14 Feb 2013 06:00:00 GMT

Jackie was married with two children. One day she found a chat site so she started chatting. Chatting soon became posting photos, exchanging emails and ultimately -- you got it -- cheating.

Blake's Boyfriend Is 24 Years Older And A Divorced Father Of Two. Can This Work?

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Blake is 22 and has never been married. Her boyfriend is 46, divorced and the father of two children. He's been divorced for 3 years, yet refuses to delete photos of his ex, OR complete his annulment. He drops everything when his wife calls -- and she calls often. He also grills Blake about her about past relationships, and what positions they used for sex.

"Thinking's" New Beau Is Her Sister's Ex Husband!

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 22 Nov 2012 06:00:00 GMT

"Thinking" has fallen in love with her sister's ex-husband and he feels the same. She wants to know -- should they continue and admit their love to both families even though she knows NO ONE will approve? Or should she just forget him and remain with her current boyfriend?

Hopeless's Boyfriend Dumped Her Because She's Not A Virgin

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 20 Sep 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Hopeless dated a guy for two years to whom she lost her virginity. When he became abusive, she broke up with him. Four months later she began dating someone else, and when he asked if she was a virgin, she panicked and said yes. After five months of a terrific relationship -- the best she's had -- she came clean and told him she was not, in fact, a virgin. He immediately broke it off, and now she feels ashamed and that no man will ever love her.

SM Attracts Abusive Men

Dr. Dale Archer — Sat, 08 Sep 2012 14:00:00 GMT

SM was physically abused by her first husband. She got out, but now at age 41 she is in her second marriage, which is emotionally and mentally abusive. She wants to leave, but she can't because she has a child.

Bev's Husband Doesn't Trust Her

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Bev and her husband married a year ago, and they have a two year old son. She is in the military, and met a guy last year before she was married. He texted her out of the blue, and now her husband thinks she is being unfaithful, even though she's never gotten together with him. Her husband moved out, but recently started visiting and mentioned starting over. Now he constantly checks her texts. She's in the military, and gets texts all the time! Now he wants a divorce, even though she has never been unfaithful. What do you think of this situation? Is there a chance it can last like this?

Russ's Ex Falsely Accused Him Of Domestic Violence

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 12 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Russ's third wife had never been married before. They fell in love and got married. He thought they were fine, until he found out she was telling family and friends he was abusing her. When she filed for divorce, the courts provided the restraining order because they believed her lies. She took money from his accounts, hacked into his business computer, and says she lost all respect for him because he fell in love with her. He asks why he still can't get over her, saying he would take her back today if she would agree. Thoughts?

AJ Got Pregnant So Her Husband Would Stay

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 01 Aug 2012 06:00:00 GMT

AJ married her husband knowing he was in love with someone else. He had to break up with her -- his mother made him! He still is in contact with his ex, and he still sleeps with her, but he's afraid to divorce AJ because he's afraid of his mother. To try to make him love her more, she got pregnant, and now her husband is even more upset. She asks how she can make this marriage work, because she doesn't want her friends to find out things aren't great between them. Yep, that's what she asks. Thoughts?

Nancy Wants A Divorce And Asks How To Proceed Despite Her Fear

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 06:00:34 GMT

Nancy has been married for 11 years. Her husband has controlled, threatened and lied to her repeatedly, and she has lost all respect for him. She wants a divorce, but is scared he may go crazy and get violent. She wonders the best way to proceed. Should she plan a secret escape to avoid any possible violence? Thoughts?

Sandra Cannot Forgive Herself For Breaking Up Her Family

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 08 Jul 2012 06:00:44 GMT

Eleven years ago Sandra had an affair with her boss. As a result, she walked out on her 15 year marriage, husband and two sons, then 13 and 8. She is still beating herself up for what she did, and knows it was the biggest mistake of her life. Finally she now once again has a relationship with her boys, and would like to re-connect with her ex. But, they tell her not to talk to their dad, as it will only reopen old wounds. She asks how to forgive herself. After this much time, is counseling necessary or would it even help?

Asra's Husband Puts Everyone Else Before Her

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 18:00:18 GMT

Asra's husband doesn't love her the way she loves him. He loves his parents, friends and everyone else more than her. Everyone else in her family is happily married except her, and she's becoming frustrated, angry, finding faults with others and becoming jealous. What should she do? Thoughts?

G Cannot Get Over Her Cheating Husband Leaving Her

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 01 Jul 2012 18:00:40 GMT

Two years ago G's husband had an affair, causing a divorce. She is still angry and bitter, blaming him for leaving their 9 year old son and ruining her life. She's afraid she'll never get over it, never get closure and become bitter -- well even more bitter. What advice would you give her?

Steve's Wife Had An Affair And Now They All 3 Work Together

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 24 Jun 2012 18:00:09 GMT

Steve has been with his wife for 7 years, and married for 3. Soon after their third child was born, while he worked, went to school full time and tried to maintain their home, he started hearing rumors that his wife was having an affair with a co-worker. It took a few confrontations, but she finally admitted it. This man still calls and texts her, and she responds because they still work together and she says she is scared for her job. In fact, now they ALL 3 work together. He blames himself, and now doesn't know whether to fight for his family or call it quits. Thoughts?

After 12 Years, Andre's Wife Moved Out

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 21 Jun 2012 06:00:04 GMT

After 12 years, Andre's wife moved out of their apartment for another guy. He is left in the apartment, boxing up their things, hoping she will walk through the door. He prays everyday she will come home. He can't afford to keep the place on his own, but so far -- nothing. Friends tell him to move on, while others tell him not to take her back if she returns since she left him in such a bind. He needs advice on whether to keep holding out hope or to move on.

Henry Is Blindsided By His Wife's Request For A Separation

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 03 Jun 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Henry and his wife are both in their 40's, married 18 years and have two teenagers. Their home is paid off and they have no debt. Six months ago she asked for a separation, taking him by surprise. He's seeing a marriage counselor, while she refuses to talk to anyone. He moved out for a month at her insistence, and when he returned she moved out. She's been gone a month and still can't decide what she wants. He tells her he loves her, but she remains silent or gets angry. He asks me how long should he keep giving her time? What do you think?

Shirley's Husband Isn't Interested In Sex

Dr. Dale Archer — Fri, 25 May 2012 18:00:34 GMT

Shirley met her husband in 1999. They were happy and had their future ahead of them. He has spina bifida, but not to the point of a wheelchair. Everything was wonderful and years went by until one day she went to bed early. Waking up, she caught him watching porn. Since then he has made no attempts at having sex with her, and he makes excuses when she initiates sex. He now says he's impotent because of that night. Do you believe him?

Donna Wonders Why Her Friend Just Doesn't Divorce, Already!

Dr. Dale Archer — Wed, 23 May 2012 06:00:00 GMT

Donna has a friend who has been on a roller coaster for a year. He says he needs a divorce, because all attempts to save his marriage has failed. His wife keeps calling him to do this and that, and he's there for her. However, he's in love with someone else but feels he should stop seeing her until he is officially divorced or at least until he begins divorce proceedings. What do you think of this situation?

After 7 Happy Years, Graham's Wife Wants Out

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 17 May 2012 22:00:31 GMT

Graham's work requires him to travel abroad often, which means he cannot spend as much time with his wife and son as he'd like. Still, he considered his 7 years of marriage lovely, affectionate and fun. He wonders if her Prozac could be the root of the problem, as he thinks it has changed his wife, and not for the better. He asks for my thoughts, and now I ask for yours. Can a psych med cause someone to fall in or out of love?

Hank's Wife Had An Affair With His Best Friend

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 15 May 2012 22:00:56 GMT

Hank is 41, married 12 years and father of three. A year and a half ago he found out his wife was having an affair with his best friend. They tried to reconcile -- twice -- but he can't get past the anger and distrust. She has made changes, but he's not sure she knows how much she hurt him, and he has limits on how much he will commit to the relationship because he is afraid. He used to be outgoing but now he's distant and suspicious. He wants to know what to do?

Jes Was Angry And Slapped Her Husband

Dr. Dale Archer — Sun, 13 May 2012 22:00:43 GMT

Jes and her husband have been married for a year, but she still lives with her parents while he still lives with his. They were planning on moving into their own place in a few months, but her husband met another woman and fell in love. He told her he wanted a divorce and she slapped him. Now they're having a cooling off period of one month and she's hoping for a miracle. What would you tell this woman?

Sandy Is Hanging On To A 25 Year Old Hurt

Dr. Dale Archer — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 06:00:26 GMT

Sandy writes in to discuss her husband, who was her boyfriend whenever he held a knife to her throat. Now he's her husband, and it's 25 years later. She wants him to apologize, but he doesn't remember it happening. She says she gave up her life to keep him happy, and now she resents that he won't apologize. What do you think of this? Is this grounds for divorce 25 years later?

Pebbles Wants A Divorce

Dr. Dale Archer — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 14:00:45 GMT

Pebbles wants a divorce, but her husband refuses to accept reality. Instead, he will hug her tightly and tell her over and over again that he loves her. She worries about her two young children and how this will affect them, but she feels she must leave. How does she make him accept this reality? He just won't listen.

Linda Loves A Co-Worker, Not Her Husband

Dr. Dale Archer — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 06:00:22 GMT

Linda has problems within her marriage, and would never agree to an affair. BUT she is in love with a man she works with, and even though he says he has feelings for her, he doesn't want to be with her. She feels he's the one and would like to at least be casual with him, but wonders how. You say?